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Debates on whether a divorce is the correct solution to a marital problem has been on for a long time. Usually an average, educated, common urban person going through a turmoil in one’s marriage will tend to side with divorce and the so called fringe benefits. As much as it is dependent upon the nature of the conflict in a marriage, it has been proved that a lot of marriages can be salvaged with the correct approach towards making it work. Of course, there are exceptional marriages which are better off being called off then worked on. But those would include only a minuscule percent of the population.

Conflict resolution techniques and acquisition of necessary skillsets to deal with a difficult marriage can certainly act as a magical wand. Different techniques of conflict resolution is something which would require seeking professional expertise, but the required skillsets is something which can certainly be imbibed by couples with a positive frame of mind. ‘Where there’s a will, there’s a way’ just cannot go wrong here. If a couple decides to remain married and committed to a lifelong relationship, there are ways innumerable to make it work. Failure to acquire the relevant skills for a marriage should not lead to dejection. There are very many skills which work differently for different people. Universal skills being the same, there are certain characteristics which can be identified better by an expert dealing with relationship issues. Common skills ranging from maturity – emotional and financial to effective communication in married couples to slightly complex ones like emotional equilibrium, cultural balancing, realistic goal setting etc. can be an elixir in most of the cases.

Seeing a relationship expert is no longer a taboo especially in Asian countries . People are following the west not just in terms of having fragile marriages but also in terms of making it work through counsellors and relationship therapists. More and more people are seeking professional advice on numerous life challenging situations. Marriage counselling is just one of them. If couples continue living in a marriage based on what made them get into a it in the first place, can definitely play a pivotal role in helping it last for ever. But then nothing lasts for ever, so why not make the most while it lasts…..

The age old adage ‘blood is thicker than water’ doesn not hold true as it once did. Its meaning and form have indeed diluted.
This merely proves how the complexion of relationships have changed over a period of time. Regardless of whether a
relationship is blood or otherwise, it goes through its own course of ups and downs, highs and lows, sweetness and bitterness, so on and so forth.

The term ‘relationships’ can have so many connotations. Relationships can be infinite. And it has become increasingly difficult to nurture our own relationships.Partners dont get along with each other despite being in a relationship, married couples find it hard to remain committed, siblings can’t see eye to eye,parents and children have problems with one another, friendships dont last as it once used to. Whom do we blame for this change?
As much as people play the blame game, nitpick on others and hold them responsible for their troubled relationships, no one actually blames him/herself
to the cause of the failure.

Have you ever realized that people seldom have problems at their work place? Despite the differences, cordial relations are usually maintained.
The primary reason for this is that we are often trained to behave in a particular fashion in an organization. There are so many human resource theories
endorsing the same. As a thumbrule, it becomes imperative to get along at work.Students of management and organizational behaviour are imparted
specialized training to become ‘people friendly’. Now, the question is, why can’t the same be applied to our personal relationships? If individuals
are taught the techniques to deal effectively with their relationships, the rate and frequency of conflicts would go down drastically. People will be able
to handle their relationships beautifully. Differences are inevitable. But with proper training and insight, it can become a second nature to cope, adjust
and adapt to the changing cycle of a relationship.

Since there is no formal training available to deal with one’s personal relationships, help can be sought through a qualified psychologist or a counselor.
Often people resort to psychiatrists and clinical psychologists for their personal issues. A big misconception of people is at play here. First and foremost
they don’t realize the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist. A psychiatrist is a person with a background in medicine. A psychologist is
a qualified person who studies the human behaviour. The field of psychology is vast and its scope wide. A clinical psychologist can only help in a limited
way. Since the nature of relationships can not always be treated in a clinical way, it becomes very essential to get help from a person specialized in
relationships, life coaching, mentoring etc.

The stigma attached to people seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist has waned like in the West. More and more people are becoming aware of their
mental/behavioural problems at hand. A society with people who are not just physically healthy, but also mentally fit can work wonders for their
overall growth and betterment. Relationships have an intrinsic role to play in this. Happy and fulfilling relationships can have a cascading effect
on all the other aspects of our life. Hence the importance and relevance of relationships should never be undermined. Although people tend to
underestimate the significance of a healthy relationship, there are a lot of principles which postulate the substance of a wholesome relationship.

Any relationship, big or small, close or distant has its share of benefits to our self worth.