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Relationship milestones are always special. Particularly the big ones like the first date, the first birthday, the first anniversary, engagement, marriage et. al. But there are many small relationship milestones which do not get due attention and credit they deserve.

There can be many, but the value of a few listed below should never be discounted. For example, the first time someone gets emotional and as a result vulnerable, it’s something really beautiful to treasure. At the onset of a relationship, nobody likes to reveal their emotional side too much. But certain situations solicit display of certain emotions. When a person gets emotional, it reflects their closeness towards their partner. One should never underestimate the significance of such a milestone.

Given the technology driven times of today, when a person posts a picture together as a couple for the first time, it is very special. It may seem casual, if the relationship is perceived as one, but posting a picture certainly showcases some seriousness about the relationship. A small milestone which says a lot. Also, a video-call made first time is something special to remember.

Another small but important milestone would be when one is introduced to one’s partner’s inner circle of family or friends. With this, one can see one’s relationship going to another level. Celebrate the milestone.

The first time one receives a gift or flowers from one’s significant other without an occasion can create a memory to last a lifetime. It’s beautiful to experience a milestone so small yet meaningful enough to create a lasting happiness.

While the bigger milestones hog all the attention, the smaller ones discussed above shouldn’t be ignored. A relationship is a sum of big and small. More the merrier – nurture your relationship by going that extra mile to create milestones which make you smile.

The mentality to own a person in an intimate relationship, is one of the biggest reasons for distress. The moment one gets married, that ownership reaches another level. Why in the world would one want to own a person as if he/she is a thing. One can only own things but never a person.

With ownership comes control. And whenever there is control there is friction. Neither ownership, nor friction can let a relationship flourish. Both stem from severe insecurities. When a person is insecure about one’s partner, there is an urge to cling on to them. This clinging leads to a tendency to own a person.

No amount of ownership or control can ever drive away insecurities. The only way to deal with them would be communicating the same to one’s partner. Again, insecurities can come from both ends. Talking about it always help. But if one person is prone to feeling insecure at the drop of a hat with the slightest trigger, there is something wrong with that person. One needs to seek help to deal with an insecure mind.

So many relationships are infested with insecurities. It takes a huge toll on the partners involved and their relationship. The moment the insecure mind is satiated with an explanation to get rid of it, another trigger would raise its dirty head to breed more insecurity. There is no end to it if it has become an intrinsic part of a person’s nature.

To put up with a partner who is always insecure can be mentally daunting. Though they underestimate the impact it has on their persona, not much is done about it. Relationships often break because of insecurity but marriages seldom break because of it. Ironic and how!

It’s not worth getting insecure and its not worth putting up with insecurities. Change yourself or change the situation. Its too big a price to pay to stay in any relationship. Secure your relationship by driving away your insecurities.