What is your definition of dating?

New age dating is very different from traditional dating. Virtual dating is again not the same as dating someone in person. People want a meaningful connect in their relationships, regardless of what their dating style is. Gone are the days when dating was considered frivolous. Sagarika Shah, Co-founder, Psychologist and Relationship Therapist, Thought Counsel is here to share her insights on mental wellness and relationships. sagarika@thoughtcounsel.com https://www.thoughtcounsel.com

Does thinking about dating put u in an emotional landmine? Listen to me Sagarika shah, talk about the modern dating culture, as I Welcome you to another episode on happiness and relationships.

Online dating apps, ghosting, pre-googling, defining the relationship are some of the new age dating platforms and concepts, which were unheard of a couple of decades ago.  Though dating and hooking up are used interchangeably, they are both very different. A hook up usually involves quick physical intimacy without any connection or communication. Its random, swift and brief. As against dating, which is planned, graded and gradual.

So, when one of my clients came to me, super excited about going on a traditional date for the first time, post the lock down, she was at the top of the world. She wanted to know how different was it going to be, meeting someone in person. Although she had already googled and stalked the guy virtually after she was asked out by him, she wanted to know and learn more.

She was intrigued by the fact that she was going to experience a new kind of intimacy. Something which would make her connect in a way which was very different from connecting virtually.

Despite the fast-paced dating and hooking up culture, youngsters and many other single adults have realized the need for a stronger connect to take the relationship to the next level. They want to literally excavate the fundamentals of relationships by wanting to know what to pay attention to, if words should be taken at face value, how to figure if someone’s falling for you, what qualities do partners find attractive etc. Aspects like looks, achievements and success are overlooked if they can’t feel the connect with the person they are dating.

Even when seeing someone virtually, a pleasant photo and a witty profile don’t quite go beyond making that first impression, for people seek compatibility even online that reinforce their strong beliefs in love and life. I must admit the rules of dating have changed. Contemporary relationships are different from conventional relationships but clarity in terms of what a person seeks in their relationship is much more than it was traditionally. People are very clear about striking a bond which would take care of their feelings and needs. What is your take on love and life?