Mood swings can take your relationship on a roller coaster ride…

Mood swing is more like a see saw than a swing. Ironical!! A common phenomenon which affects all. As much as it is very natural for human beings to have mood swings, frequent and intense mood swings can have severe implications on self and the people around. It is so easy for someone to be negative, difficult and then to blame it all on one’s mood. Most of the time, the mood swing spirals downward rather than upwards, and it normally makes a person more despondent. Sometimes a chemical change in the brain and at others a physiological change could be the trigger Regardless of what the contributing factor is, a mood swing can breed trouble in a relationship.

All human beings have mood variations. It is impossible to portray a uniform mood continuously. What can be alarming is the outburst of frequent oscillating moods. An early warning signal of some deep-rooted factors at play.

Mood swings can be positive or negative. Well not literally though! Paradoxical as it may sound, negative mood can be a positive and vice versa.  Normally, an upswing in mood would have an ‘open arms acceptability’, and only a downswing in mood would be a matter of concern. But that’s not always true. Some people have basic predisposition to be happy and cheerful. But a showcase of extra exuberance for short spans from time to time can signify a person’s instability and wavering mind. Can also be a manifestation of anxiety or depression. Here the mood elevates only to dip the very next instance. This is more dangerous than people depicting sad or gloomy temperament. Negative mood swings can be a manifestation of some underlying factors like insecurities, fears, low self-esteem, frustrations, stress, pressure etc. and don’t necessarily spell trouble. Communication becomes a key factor here. Partners at the receiving end need to find out what could be causing this distress in their partner. It could be the result of a relationship malfunction. Such couples need to talk it over. Certain disturbing issues can be brought out through a discussion.

Partners with frequent mood swing tendencies – even after helping them address their problems, should be dealt with differently. When it becomes a habit and if not nipped in the bud it can be devastating. If not addressed, the suppressed or repressed feelings can continue to remain dormant till it gets beyond the pale. The relationship thus becomes vulnerable and would have all the chances of tearing apart. And here both the partners are at fault in more or less proportion. One, for displaying and the other for encouraging. Tolerating it is feeding it. It only gets incremental with time. Such eruption should never be endured beyond a point.  People take it more out of the need to avoid conflict, temper tantrums and to maintain peace. Unfortunately, such short-term gains never promise a peaceful future. Can be extremely taxing to be a target every now and then. So, what you allow will continue.

Relationships are the highest indicators of happiness. Let your mood index be full of such happiness created by a meaningful relationship. After all you want to swing happily and not let your moods swing!!!