It has been observed that individuals with dual personalities are more prone to relationship distress.  Such people function very differently in their inner circle of spouse, children, parents, close relatives and friends, vis a vis their outer circle. It’s as if they are two different entities in two different spaces. Partners of such people always […]

There’s something about Diwali!! So vibrant and colourful. The brightness it brings along illuminates everyone and everything. The time of the year to clean up and declutter.  While we go out of our way to clean up our homes and offices weeks before Diwali, do we ever do anything to clean up our minds or

Common problems plaguing relationships of today are affairs, power struggles, lack of communication and loss of love. As much as it is very difficult to understand how these problems get generated, one thing is very clear that couples create their own path to crisis. And when that happens, couples stop being themselves when with their

All relationships go through a cycle of peak, plateau and downhill. Specifically, marriages. After the initial euphoria, excitement and enamour start evaporating, people get disillusioned by either the marriage or the relationship they are in. Creating successful marriages is a skill based activity. Once the initial chemistry and the resultant powerful attraction wears off, couples

A general observation on individuals who show streaks or scads of possessiveness reflect their state of minds. These are normally the people who have no confidence in themselves and hence need to hold on to their partners. Possessiveness is never a standalone trait. It comes with its baggage of jealousy, suspiciousness and a lot more.

According to the latest research news, scientists are in the process of developing a ‘love pill’. This magical pill can help you fall in or out of love. It is believed to help one deal with a heartbreak. It will produce effects similar to the chemical reactions which take place in the brain when in

I get intrigued on so many counts by couples in distress. Whatever the reasons for their differences, so many times I have seen one partner fearing the other. I wonder, how can a relationship succeed or survive if one fears one’s partner or spouse?  A big indicator of something terribly amiss – either within the

In my experience as a relationship therapist, I have come across some repetitive behavioural patterns that lead to distress in relationships, particularly marriages. A quick look at them would help my readers to be vigilant about not repeating these in their relationships. I will start with the ‘partner first’ approach. Many times, unknowingly, you may

My very recent talk at Ahmedabad Management Association ended with a flurry of questions from the audience. A regular given, but this time around I found a couple of questions rather puzzling. One of the questions from a gentleman almost tickled my funny bone. He wanted me to tell him what kind of a life

Have you ever felt that you shouldn’t have said what you did to your partner in more than one situation? How do you undo something already done? And you wish you hadn’t said it because it ended up pushing him/her away. Words and action have equal power to either pull a partner close or drive